Monday, September 06, 2010

Alejo - An Update


Alejo had is 2 month check up last Monday - hard to believe it's already been 2 months. But as I type this, I also feel like he's always been with us; it's a little hard to imagine him not here.


He got a clean bill of health from the pediatrician. His stats are: 11lbs 14oz (50%), 24.5" height (90%) and 16" head circumference (60%). Luis was heavier, shorter and had a smaller head at the same age. I'm a little surprised at how Luis and Alejo's weight changes. Luis was heavier at birth and Alejo was heavier at 10 days and 2 weeks. Now Luis was heavier at one month. Consistently, Alejo has a bigger head...

Alejo is such a sweet, sweet baby. He is calm and easy going almost all the time. He has little squeaks when he's hungry or when he's got a poopy diaper, but that's about it. Alejo loves to cuddle and will curl up on my chest or shoulder and snooze away as long as I'll hold him.

I know it won't last much longer, but he still has days where he sleeps almost all day and all night. Of course, he has some days now where he is awake almost the whole day. Those days are a bit tough, as it requires a lot of baby-holding. It's still really hot here (over 100 degrees every day until last week), too hot to use my Ergo carrier for baby wearing. The good news is that Alejo never had his days/nights mixed up. Regardless of what happens during the day, Alejo always sleeps well, in his crib, at night. He wakes up between 1-3 times in the night, but is rarely awake for more than 15 minutes. While I look forward to when it's just one time per night, I find it hard to complain because the awake time is so minimal.

With all the sleeping that he's doing, I find it difficult to bathe him. I think he went almost two weeks from when he got home from the hospital until his first bath because he was never awake long enough at a time when Diego or I could do it (first bath post to come). We've gotten a little better about it, but certainly not the regular schedule that Luis had.

And speaking of "not the regular schedule that Luis had", this phrase really applies to all of Alejo's life. I'm pretty sure that at this stage of Luis's life, he had a well-defined schedule, including a bedtime routine. With Alejo, I feel lucky if we actually change him out of his clothes into PJ's before bedtime! When Luis was this age, Diego was already working in India, and I had not gone back to work at HITT. Meals were just for me, and were often things like cereal or sandwich or frozen something. So my only focus was Luis (and Ashley & Muffles). It wasn't hard to be more structured and focused about Luis's schedule. This time around, I've got a 3 1/2 year old to play with and teach, a part-time job, and a family to feed and keep in clean clothes. Alejo's easy-going-ness, in a way, doesn't help promote a schedule. When he's hungry, I feed him and when he's tired, I put him to bed. So far, it's been working. I'm hoping that with the start of Luis's school tomorrow, we can ALL get back on a more regular schedule. Honestly, I'm just not quite sure how to squeeze in making dinner, eating dinner, bathing Alejo, bathing Luis, reading stories, nursing an putting Luis and Alejo to bed in the hours between 6-8.

Starting about 2 weeks ago (maybe about August 21), Alejo started to smile. Not the I-have-gas smile, but the OH WOW - HUMAN INTERACTION smile. It's really beautiful and totally contagious. He smiles not just with his mouth, but with his eyes, his cheeks, his whole face. Yesterday, before we headed out to the Zoo, Diego was telling Alejo about the animals we'd see (in Spanish). Apparently Alejo was totally delighted by this, just smiling and smiling and smiling.

Alejo spends a little time each day in the baby gym. It is mostly to by me some time to finish making breakfast/lunch/dinner or to give Luis some one-on-one time. Lucky for me, Alejo seems to enjoy it there. He will now grab on to some of the hanging toys and cling (as if for dear life). He gets tummy time about every third day or so. Just when I feel a bit guilty about not doing it more often, I remind myself that he's had pretty incredible neck strength for more than a month now. Now, when you support his back while sitting, he can hold his head up pretty much on his own. Diego is eager to try out the bumbo, but I think we've got a bit of time before he's ready for that.

[Picture posts to follow in the next couple of days.]

Sunday, September 05, 2010

A Sweet, Sweet Evening

Tonight, Alejo joined Luis and I for Luis's going to bed routine. Luis re-arranged us all so that both he and Alejo could see the book. Occasionally, he would lovingly reach over and give Alejo a little pat. When stories were over, we had the following conversation:

Luis: Mommy, can Alejo have a sleep over with me tonight?

Me: Not tonight. When he gets older we can.

Luis: Please Mommy? He can sleep with me and if he cries, I'll make him feel better.

Me: That's very sweet, but not tonight.

Luis: OK. If he cries, I'll come get you and you can give him some milk and then he'll feel better. OK?

Me: Not tonight sweetie.

The very next conversation:

Luis: When Alejo gets bigger and becomes my big brother, will we have another baby?

Me: What do you think?

Luis: YES! And this time, let's have a little sister.

Me: Do you like babies?

Luis: Yes!!

[Note: Any comments that re-ask the question about more babies will be deleted.]

Thursday, September 02, 2010

A Special Breakfast

Despite the fact that Luis's fall school has not yet started (that happens next week), we still seem to have slightly hectic mornings. Between making coffee for the grown ups, breakfast for everyone and lunch for Diego all before 8:00a, I find myself a little tired when Diego walks out the door for work.


This morning was no exception, except that I hadn't gotten around to my own breakfast yet. And I was hungry! The moment that the door closed behind Diego, Luis turns to me and invites me to play Super Heroes. I declined. Then he invited me to do a puzzle ("Because you REALLY like to do puzzles, right Mommy?"). I declined.

Luis: Well then, who is going to play with me?

Me: Luis, I will play with you in a bit, but right now I'm going to have breakfast. This morning I've made Daddy breakfast, I've made you breakfast, I've given Alejo TWO breakfasts, and I've made Daddy's lunch. Who is the only person who hasn't had breakfast yet?

Luis: You?

Me: That's right. So before I do anything else for anybody else, I am going to have my breakfast and do my puzzle (really, two puzzles - crossword and sudoku).

Luis: What are you going to have for breakfast?

Me: Apple with peanut butter.

Luis (running into the kitchen): Mommy - tell me where you keep the apples so I can get it for YOU.

His sweet, sweet offer just about took my breath away, and made me tear up a bit. Luis is certainly a loving, affectionate child, but this was the first time I'd seen him extrapolate on his own to do something for someone else.